Endurance in Loving a person

Reading 'And the clock strikes 20' in Star2 Sunday Star, moved me. I was tearing when I read what the writer wrote about love.

If we accept that we’re all human beings, and that all human beings are born imperfect, then we have to nurture self-acceptance and forgiveness. No holding grudges, no hurt feelings, no looking back, but just keep moving forward.
Ask me the secret recipe of this cake called marriage, and I’ll say it’s truckloads of trust, respect and compromise. Love is just the marzipan on the cake, and beauty will eventually fade away. What remains is the make-up of internal beauty, led by the heart and controlled by the brains.
All good relationships are based on trust and loyalty – both rare commodities. Just like your heart, the strength of a marriage can be determined by a stress test: this starts off slowly, then it gets faster and faster over time. And depending on your level of endurance, some will make it to a higher level, while some will give up mid-way.
Endurance is key, and it’s for this sole reason that very few remain happily married. Most “stay married”, some push the reset button, and the braver ones simply “choose to adhere” to the Sunnah.
Some say marriage kills romance. I say it’s easy to fall in love, but it’s tough to be in love. Falling in love is just a one-off affair, whilst being in love is present, constant and continuous. The same applies to “loving” a person or “being in love” with a person. Two different states of mind.

Above points are what I would like to highlight and also a reminder for myself. Lastly, what attracted me the most is......... 
They say time flies when you are having fun. In psychology, they say truly happy couples will mirror each other in posture and stance. We have gone way beyond mirroring. After 20 years, the same thoughts run parallel in my mind and his, resulting in him completing my sentence or giving the same answer to a question posed.
When words are no longer necessary to express each other’s feelings and thoughts, you know you’ve crossed the bridge!

 I was smiling as I knew instinctively that WE experienced that.

Mirroring each others antics, words, action, way of speaking,
Same thoughts ran through our mind and we blurted out the exact same word out at the same time with the same excitement, same laughter while looking at each other,
How we are able to make each other laugh (and cry),
How being with each other provides much comfort,
How our connection is so strong like two opposite poles of magnet,
When words no longer necessary to express each others feelings, we only need to feel it...


Babe, I'm terrified